How much is average?

My friend RR and I had dinner a few days ago, where she complained about her and her husband’s sex life. She said that at nine weeks pregnant, she doesn’t have the energy to have sex more than once or twice each week. She would rather sleep.

All joking, kidding, and exaggerating aside, I think having sex twice each week is pretty good. When the two people in a healthy long term relationship work 10-12 hour days, I would think that having sex twice each week is standard. Maybe you aren’t going for the Erotic Olympics gold, but you are still in contention for bronze or even silver. Especially if the couple does not live together.

JSquared and I are currently in a long distance phase of our relationship (me in Philadelphia, him in NYC), so we have sex once or twice a week, but we cram it into the weekends during our visits. (In the interests of full disclosure, I admit that last weekend’s three sessions were an outlier). When I move to NYC in September, I fully expect us to throw in at least one more session a week. If we eventually move in together, I can picture throwing in another freaky evening. But I do not expect us to get up to RR and her husband’s alleged six to seven sexual adventures each week. So how much is average?